The inner cage

If the idle speed of our lives takes place in our "Comfort zone", we will not grow. We will continue to do always the same thing .... Maintaining a "Comfort zone" can, paradoxically, lead to discomfort on long term. (see Crossroads). If we avoid important life questions in the comfortable inner circle, it collects a psychic and physical inner tension .... Possibly, if the internal and external pressure for change continues, it's the ending of the "Comfort zone" it will not "serve" us anymore.

The life with self-doubts, fear, dishonesty, self-pity, blaming to others, hiding and lying keeps us trapped in certain patterns, which increase exponentially, possibly escalate. Until we learn to recognize and grow. If not, the "Comfort zone" remains our life and over time the problems will potentiate (illness, depression, anxiety). Then the only strongly advis is, to get professional guidance in terms of a therapy.

The phases of the dual soul

Phase 1: Identifying
People who meet their dual soul realize this usually already at first glance. The first few seconds of such an encounter almost always leaves a lasting impression, its often described as "magical" moment. Sometimes the encounter with the dual soul announces beforehand (for example, in the form of dreams). It can t grow, like a friendship.

Phase 2: Enjoy
Both sides feel the encounter quickly as "special" and "unique." It creates a bond and a form of love that is like nothing else. The participants are fully interconnected in their hearts and instinctively know what the other thinks and feels - even over long distances.

Phase 3: The confusion
The power of the resulting feelings, suddenly has a negative connotation. You think you are crazy, you are more vulnerable than ever, you get afraid of your own courage, one begins his previous thoughts and feelings - even the previously guided life - to question. The confrontation with ethical and moral principles leads to internal conflicts. This can go with both at the same time by both parties, as well as mutually, what the first harmony disturbs.

Phase 4: The distance
Often opts for the period of confusion at least one soul proportions to break contact. Possible reasons: "It can not be, what should not be," "I can not handle it", "The whole thing does not make any sense", "Our relationship is hopeless", "I go one searching/being for/with something/one I m used to, painfull.. but controlled, deserved and deceptive". So...

Phase 5: The Pain
With the separation arises sooner or later on both sides up, a never before perceived pain. It feels as if you are incomplete. The other half is missing at every nook and corner. Life suddenly seems much less worth living and thoughts are constantly at the loss of his beloved soul. Although the compound is still noticeably present (you know instinctively what the other person is still going), it hurts terribly, not to have the real contact any longer. although you thought, now you ve got or found what your deepest wish was. You are convused. Its different to a lovesickness, its needs time to realize, that even after all, you know for sure, being without that person, you can t imagine... you are half.

Phase 6: The acceptance (understanding and learning)
Most fail all attempts to re-establish real contact with the lost soul. What remains is the question of "why". Why did the encounter happen? Why are we so conected to the others? Why did this happen and what are the whole learning tasks? If you understand what was to be learned from this encounter, the implementation of this idea begins - the mutual learning, which obviously must be made separately from each other, in order to be distracted too much by the other soul. Very often, both parts of the soul have very similar learning tasks, however, a different pace of learning.

Phase 7: The rapprochement
Have both souls met their learning tasks, it is granted to them to make their way back to the jointly contest . It may also be, that they met again to help the other a little "in the cracks".

Phase 8: New learning tasks or merger
Were all learning tasks, which were intended to meet for a share of the two halvesouls, are reached, dual souls may also be in "real life" - in whatever form - stay together. Are there other tasks to manage, they are expected to return this done, separately from each other. That will repeated all from Phase 4, the whole thing - until both souls have learned, what they are supposed to learn in this life.

..... and sometimes you have to learn to recognize who is a missing part of the dual soul, only that part, the dual soul loves absolutely and unconditionally. Only when both have recognized this and learned, both halves find each other again, to her inner peace, that they always were searching for, always confused and raised with doubts. When they thought,  they had found their other half ... in her "infatuation". Every time again ....
But only if they are lucky and previleged,  to have found its proper dual soul and "see" it,  your innerself is losing the sense of insecurity, the inner conflict, the feeling of  having lost yourself ....
Only when they both "know" they are a unity again, they have arrived in the Love, the Peace,  the Familiarity and the being One, which they sought for so long and so often, so desperated.
But is a half-soul trapped in its self, dual souls do not lose each other. For a core unit there is neither space nor time, only when each half has learned to "recognize", has learned to rely on his own the "valley of pain and of seeking" the run after his irritating Egowishes will be over. Only if both halves have learned to listen to they inner voice, they will find each other again, that will be the cure to loneliness for both of them.
Many relationships are "suffering relations", annual years ... often for a lifetime, as they are not together with their dualsoul, because they are a subject of deception, the wishful thinking, the ego ... usually there is one partner in such a connection, that is the sufferer, the bleeder, the endurer... only when one realizes that love never hurts, tortures, lies, betrays, disapoints or is punishing, one can leave .... one is released. A Halvesoul will go through such experiences, long before it recognize and learn to love and respect itself; liberate itself. The ending of the suffering of the two halves... they will find themselves and together.

It is very special when dual souls will not only find, but also are in a romantic relationship with each other. Sometimes you see those "soul unit relationships" and everyone feels the deep connection between them. Wordlessly, intimately, peaceful and completely satisfied ...

When you meet someone where you realize, there you can immediately be "I", without adjusting, without shame! You are familiar an eternity! Take the hand of that one and your soul can breathe...

The love. Love knows nothing, She knows neither door nor bars and permeates through everything. She is from the beginning, beat their wings forever, and they will beat - ever.

Nickelback - If Today Was Your Last Day (With Lyrics)

Faithfulness to yourself

There is only one person, where you have to remain faithful - to yourself! Everyone else will leave you sooner or later, but with yourself, you came to the world - alone. With yourself you will go out of this world - alone.
If you are not staying true to yourself, you've lost everything that ever really was yours, yourself  - if your yourself do not stay true to yourself, you will also be unfaithful to all others, because then you're not real, because then you're not authentic . You will be changing a masquerade, an actor in a ridiculous drama .

How can you give yourself verity? - By letting all judgments fall about yourself, you give up by all the reviews of your being - the foreign, but also your own, you are by yourself,  you exept yourself unconditionally in your essence, the fact that there are no ifs and buts, say "Yes!" to yourself, you will be true to yourself. If  the opinion of others about you,  become indifferent and you do nothing more to gain sympathy, then you are  in faith to yourself - you don t go into a supposed love to someone and cheat on yourself anymore, but you give all the love you deserve to yourself, you will find all the love in yourself.

If you become true to yourself, then you know your true nature is always infallible, your true nature is never to judge, not to evaluate. Your true nature is your only goal for you to embody it. But you don t know your true nature, because you've already sold it to others, in order to pay,  so that they stay with you, because nothing is more worse for you, than to accept your Being alone. You preferto give up on you, you would rather play a certain role, as to be alone. But only if you stop playing a role and accept your Being alone, you are capable of true loyalty, only then it is possible for you, to live a partnership at the level of authenticity and love - before you only run, trading with other people: I do not criticize too much and make you compliments, you do not criticize me too much and you make me compliments - let's call it "love" until we both can not longer bear  the masquerade, then we split up and act as if that was a necessary part of the barter against our Being alone.

As long as your true nature is the price of  the company of someone, you are not even faithful to yourself. When your fully accept your Being alone, the essence of yourself knows no judgment from yourself and you don t need the opinions others about you anymore, then miracles happen: Suddenly people feel attracted to you, without a need for prostitute yourself .

There are no people more attractive than those, who abides into the authentic love to themselfs! The loyalty to yourself is a gateway to self-love, and when you stride through that door, you ll find yourself in the garden of love for everything.
An authentic person is one, who allows his mind to work through him, to light and love ... without masks, without protection, naked as a baby and free in Spirit, to embody themself... There is no more beautiful human being, than that who doesn t hide his light or his shadow.

Gentleness

They have taught you, that true strength is expressed through some form of hardship, but there is no greater strength, not a higher power, than the power of a person whose heart is in gentleness. Gentleness is the supreme expression of love. Love manifests always and exclusively beauty. Love will reveal to you just then at its best, when you have become soft. Love already knows the way, before you walked with it. Signs in this way are those moments, where you live gentleness. A moment full of sweetness, is a moment full of divine beauty. Tenderness is the daughter of gentleness. No man can sincerely give affection, when he dwells not in gentleness. Gentleness creates compassion, gentleness makes peace, gentleness is a bed full of rose petals for the soul, gentleness is like the water that formed the rock. True strength is found exclusively in the gentleness of a loving heart. The Gentle is strong, the Gentle is courageous, and meekness is the expression of a truly strong sublimed man.

For my Son

I have recieved you as a gift,
so many years ago.
So valuable to me;
with no money in the world,
you can buy so much happiness.
I wanted to hold you forever in my arms.
See how you sleep,
and hear how you breathe.
Well protected in my arm.
You still can do it aways again,
putting a smile on my face.
Even today,
I can't believe my luck.
The first smile that you gave me,
made me addicted to you.
I have sworn,
to protect you from all harm.
But unfortunately I wasn t always successful.
For your new lifepath,
I give you all my strength and my love.
And if your life
once is too hard and you think
that you can hardly endure
the pain, the suffering that rips you,
then come back to me,
I ll catch you again and again.
If you sometimes see no light through the mist
at the begining
and not end is in sight.
Do not be afraid
I will accompany you.
Always think of my words.
The right way is already half the target.
And untill the end of my journey,
I ll put my hands protectively over your world.
I'm telling you too rarely,
how infinitely blessed and fortunate I am, that you exist.
I love you, Marc (UdL3)

For your birthday I wish you all the love in this world ... a beam in your eyes, a smile on your face and never forget, no matter how hard it is, that you're someone very special ....

Love and Compassion....

~ Acceptance: accepting others the way they are. No judgment...people are the way they are for a variety of reasons, and we are all learning our lessons through both negative and positive experiences.

~ Allowance: releasing control and allowing people to be who they are learning their lessons in the way "they choose" even if we don't feel it is for their highest good.

~ Trust: Knowing that everyone is divinely guided and has a soul contract they are working on to advance their soul.

~Kindness: Treating others the way you would want to be treated regardless if you agree with them or not.

~ Respect: Allowing others to believe what they want to believe, understanding that everyone is working from different consciousness levels, and some people may not be ready for an expanded concept of who they are......then they would have to accept responsibility and they may not be ready for that.

Entering into Partnership

In partnership and relationship we harness the power of union.

The purpose of partnership is to create something greater than we can create alone. Not because of any deficiency or incompleteness in us, but because each of us is unique, with our own talents and abilities, and in partnership we increase the efforts and talents available for creating something meaningful together. All partnerships, whether romantic, creative, or professionally-based, can be powerful relationships for personal growth. In partnership we harness the power of union.

It is important to choose our partnerships consciously...so we can create partnerships that support and enhance the best of who we are.

Everyone in our lives is a mirror reflecting back the parts we love and dislike about ourselves. If we have the courage to recognize our reflections in each other, we can grow through our partnerships. A partnership that offers both acceptance of who we are and an opportunity for personal transformation can be fertile ground for growing a healthy, lasting union. When we find this kind of partnership, we are more likely to want to keep it, invest in it, and nurture it.
Life is a collaborative effort. Much of what we do can be enhanced through partnership. Together we are stronger because our personal power is multiplied by two. Through partnership we experience the joys of working, living, and loving together.

Fears, insecurities and compensations ...

If you're unconscious, you may be tempted to believe, that you re locked by your fellow man in a so-called golden cage. An image that is liked to be used is the jealous partner, who tries to control you, break out of fear, he/she could leave the relationship. You might think that you can blame your partner for that you feel confined. You can also turn this idea into a partner, who s the "guilt" to your dilemma.
Who believes that?
The ego, which is from a spiritual perspective, the center of your personality. If you are aware, however, observe what thoughts you nurse, then you will realize that they're the ones that trigger these emotions in you. From the perspective of the higher self, everything is in order, exactly the way it is. And amazingly, I think the more attention you give to the fate of contending ideas, the greater your self-builed golden cage.
Insecurety, perfectionism, lack of recognition, fear of failure, searching for "to be loved for its own sake", many people are driven to drugs or to non-material desires, such as the workaholic. What many do not realize is, that too is an addiction. Often with very serious consequences, either physically, psychologically and socially.

To be continued......

Happiness?

It s not your job to make someone else happy. It s your job to make your SELF happy.

We have a lot of VERY unhappy people in this world trying to make others happy..... at the expense of their very own happiness.

Sacrificing the SELF will never work, because it is impossible to give to someone else what you currently do not have.

Are you happy? If you are not ~ what changes are you willing to make in order to claim your birthright of joy, love, happiness and serenity. It is your divine birthright to radiate these attributes, and it is your responsibility to claim them.....for no one else can do it for you.

Are your needs met? If your needs are not met how can you possibly fulfill the needs of others? There must always be a balance in giving and receiving.

Examine your life and your relationships. Be brutally self honest with your self. What changes need to be made? What needs to be released? What needs to be healed? What needs to be discussed? What needs to be brought back into balance?

You have the power and the responsibility to BE HAPPY. Spend time creating that for your self so you can radiate it from your being.