Happiness?

It s not your job to make someone else happy. It s your job to make your SELF happy.

We have a lot of VERY unhappy people in this world trying to make others happy..... at the expense of their very own happiness.

Sacrificing the SELF will never work, because it is impossible to give to someone else what you currently do not have.

Are you happy? If you are not ~ what changes are you willing to make in order to claim your birthright of joy, love, happiness and serenity. It is your divine birthright to radiate these attributes, and it is your responsibility to claim them.....for no one else can do it for you.

Are your needs met? If your needs are not met how can you possibly fulfill the needs of others? There must always be a balance in giving and receiving.

Examine your life and your relationships. Be brutally self honest with your self. What changes need to be made? What needs to be released? What needs to be healed? What needs to be discussed? What needs to be brought back into balance?

You have the power and the responsibility to BE HAPPY. Spend time creating that for your self so you can radiate it from your being.

Obsession or Love?

How do I know, wheter it is love or an obsession?
(Erotomania or De-Clérambault-Syndrom) Obsession is a kind of passionable Mania. The criterion for "de Clérambault" was the unshakable faith, to be loved of the target person. That person lives mostly in a higher social environment.
"de Clérambault" divided the development into three stages. Advertised after a stage full of pride in the hope and optimism to the adored one, came the stage of grief, in the sense of disappointed love and then the stage of the grievance by the admirer trying to enforce his claims, sometimes in a dangerous manner. There is always in front of the imagination, to be loved by that other person. That person often feels they have been restricted in there life and has often even compassion. A "NO" from the adored one, will not be accepted. Some of them even interpret this refusal as a challenge, merely to give even more effort, into making their courtship hearder. Through phone calls, letters, gifts, visits, or even by monitoring and one steal he/she wants to win this love. The delusions usually refers more to an idealized romantic love and emotional connectedness, than on sexual attraction.
Only by absolute prohibition of contact and concomitant a therapy (often the cause are processed in a unprocessed grief for a loved one), can help. Because an obsession has definitely two victims.
I think with this description you can realise the difference between an Obsession and Love. While Obsession is usually an ordeal of suffering and pain; Love shows, joy, even if Love sometimes hurts, its still giving you the feeling of happiness, warmth, be at home, tenderness and physical demand.

Letter to my child

I felt your heart beating under my heart for months. In my gut I felt you stomp, turn around, sleep and grow. I felt the wonder, while your soul began more and more to dwell in you. When you were born, I was overwhelmed with a special love, a love that only the miracle of birth can give you; holding you in my arms. It is a feeling, that will give you shelter and release you, so that you can find your own way. Each child must make his own mistakes or expiriences, but I felt, that I want to tell you a little bit about what I learned in my life. So here it is....
If you are looking for a job, looking for something that fits you, because then it is no work. Do not look for recognition, status or wealth, but search for so long, until you'll find what you really want to do from your deepest soul, for yourself and for the world. Therein lies your challenge and your greatest happiness. Trust in your decisions on the wisdom of your body, because intuition can thrive in an energetic feeling in your stomach, the hairs on your arms, that will high standing or in the resistance in your legs, suddenly it's a little bit harder to move in a direction .
Forget about the advantages and disadvantage list, because you only get further away from what you in fact already know. Your mind is not there to make a choice, but to understand them.
If a partner tells you, that he is too complex or not suitable for a relationship, believe him. If he is the right one, if you have found the true love for you, it brings you no more tears, you'll have no worries and nothing to hide. It is simple and besides your butterflies in your stomach, you feel an inner peace. Accept your passion and do not be ashamed of your desire.
The sensuality of a woman does not make it less worth, but more powerful and valuable. Enjoy it on a clean manner.
Just be aware of your own creativity and see how everything goes its way, to make you stronger and wiser --- even the obstacles in your path.
Do not connect with all the horrors of this world, but direct your love and beauty to your immediate surroundings. If something crosses your path, trade by honor and conscience, and do always your best.
Search in the turmoil of everydays life for a bit of silence, to see the truth. If you can't find what you seek for in yourself, you'll never find it. You don't need someone to find the truly sacred in yourself. And you have no need to interpret the sacred in you. Be critical and think independently, even about things that everyone believes to be true, and takes it for granted.
My dear Child, keep as long as possible in your heart, where you come from, and I am grateful that our souls have found each other again.

With deep and endless Love

Your Mom

Love?! what is it....

Love is perhaps the highest attempt of the nature, to lead the individual out of itself and to the other.
Whitout love:
Sense of duty without love makes annoying, responsibility without love makes inconsiderate, justice without love makes hard, truthfulness without love makes criticism, addicted cleverness without love makes deceitful, friendliness without love makes hypocritical, order without love makes petty, knowledge without love makes dogmatic, power without love makes cruel, honor without love makes arrogant, property without love makes avaricious, faith without love makes fanatic.....
It is easier to love all as one. The love for all humanity usually costs nothing but a phrase, the love of one requires sacrifices....
Maybe you think, that love means something else or something different to you, pls; comment, thank you .... :)

Secrets of Love

The power of thought
Love begins with our thoughts.
We get what we think. Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships.
Affirmations can change our beliefs and views about ourselves and others.
If we want to love someone, we must consider their needs and desires. Thinking about your ideal partner in helping us to recognize him when he crossed our path.
The power of respect
You can only love someone or something, or if it or he/she is respected.
First you need to respect yourselve.
To develop self-respect, you should ask: "What do I like about me?"
To respect other people, even those that are unpleasant one, ask yourself: "What I admire about him or her?"
The Power of Giving
If you want to receive love, then first you have to give it! To love is to give away something of yourself, voluntarily, without any conditions.
Be friendly without intention.
Ask before you tie yourself, not by what you will have of your partner, but rather what he is getting from you.
The secret formula for a happy, lifelong, loving relationship is to be always focused on what you can give, instead of taking.
The Power of Friendship
In order to find true love, you must first find a true friend.
Love does not need to look allways into each others eyes, but in the same direction.
To love someone completely you must love him the way he/she is, and not because of his appearance.
Friendship is the soil, thrives on the love.
If you want a relationship filled with love, you must bring in friendship.
The power of Touching
The Touch is one of the strongest proofs of love. Breaking down barriers and connects people.
Touching changes the body and mind and make us susceptible to love.
A touch can heal the body and warm the heart.
If we spread our arms, we open our hearts.
The Power of Letting Go
If you love something/one, let it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours, if not, it was never yours.
Even in a loving relationship, people need their own space.
If we want to learn how to love, we must first learn how to forgive and let go past pain and past hurts.
Love means, our fears, prejudices, egos and our ifs and buts, to let go.
"Today I let go of all my fears. What used to be, no longer has power over me. Today I begin a new life. "
The power of communication
If we learn to be open and honest, our life changes.
To love someone is to communicate with him.
Let the one you love, know that you love her/him and appreciate her/him. Never be afraid to say these three words: ". I love you"
Never let pass an opportunity to praise others.
Say goodbye to people you love, with a loving word - it could be the last time you see them.
The Power of Commitment
If you want to experience love, you have to feel obliged about her, and that commitment will be in your thoughts and deeds of their expression.
The degree of liability is the touchstone of true love. If you want to have loving relationships, you have to feel obligated.
If you feel obliged to someone or something, then giving up is not an option.
The degree of Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a firm.
The Power of Passion
Passion ignites love and keeps it alive.
Lasting passion does not come through physical attraction, but out of deep commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement.
You can revive the passion again, by recreating past experiences, when you felt passionate.
Spontaneity and surprises produce passion. Love and happiness arise from the same root, we only need to live each day with passion.
The power of trust
Trust is the bedrock of any love relationship. Without it one person becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful, while the other one has the feeling of being trapped, suffocated.
You can not love someone completely unless you trust him/her completely.
Act as if your relationship to the love will never end.
If you want to know if you've found the right one, ask yourself: "Can I trust him completely and unconditionally" If you have to deny it, you should again think carefully about it, before you tie yourself.

So sow and so harvest...?

Often we ask to ourselves the question, why others seemed to have leased anyhow the luck and the bad luck properly sticks to us. Everything and everybody seems to be against us. The letter of the tax office, the annoyance with the family, the job lost, the colleagues are bullying... Disappointments in the love, money that melted away like water between our fingers. The illnesses, which seemed like the punishment of God. Why, what I have done, with what do I earn this? Why life handles so unfairly with us? It drives you to despair.

We hear, what we sow, that we harvest. We think, have we not sowed love and luck? Or does the fear, the hatred, the fury, the rage, the disregard comes back to us; all this what we have also lived and have felt? Is there really the law of the resonance? And thus we start thinking over our life checking.

To quarrel not with your destiny...

Reconciled with it; accept what was, let go what blocks you, what often takes up our thoughts so much, that there is no more space for constructive remains. And also if it sounds absurd, tries to win knowledge, even from the worst situations. How? Attemps to look once at the matter/situation from "outside". What would you see, if it does not concerned yourself, but a friend? To what would you point him out, what does he not see? Could it not be the sign of the "destiny", that the way you are going, is not the right thing for you. And the fact that it, the more you effort yourself, it becomes worse, because the occupation, the person, the surroundings is/are not "your way". Thus to seen, the "destiny" helps even, well, if one accepts it in such a way, so recognises. To stick convulsively to something and not to see that you can force nothing, ends for many in mental and health problems.

All "learnt", to "instilled" causes of these blockades, obtains only that later from it, fears, riots, disharmonies and blockades, are the result. The naturalness of a child, of body soul and mind, is filled up slowly, but actually. If you have arisen then, and stands now alone in the life, you will find no rest and satisfaction, because you do not rest in yourself and you are not contented.

Therefore everybody should wake up and empathize into hisself, wake the child in himself; everything and everybody that brings disharmony in his life, let go!

Then, nevertheless, questions once again, if really you not harvest, what you had sowed...

Protection Spell

Now a little protection spell, if you think or feel this (situation, people, environment) is/are not so good for me ....

"My wall of crystal, all 'over all', includes me, lets only enter God's light and love ..."

Envelop you, in your thoughts, as if into a cocoon of crystal, do not so much questioning, simply doing and it costs nothing ... so ... :)

Questions, nothing but questions?

Often people ask themself the questions, why just me, why do I have a hard time in such a way, why I am always only used... etc.

I would better ask, what should I do or what makes me sad, what disappointed me, what expectations do I have about an/my relationship, what experience do I never want to make again, what makes me sad, what happily, what do I have to change?
Do I go too indifferently, too dull through my life? Do I get the love, that I want / need? Do I give love?
Certainly the most important question is, what do I really want?

To form our life in such a way as we really want to have it, consists in recognising exactly what we want!
To reach this, we must wake up long ago, numb pictures again to life, give them again colour. What sounds so simple, mostly turns out to a laborious process. Unfortunately, many traits and needs have been already buried from childhood.
Each of us brings certain personality shares to in the course of his life shine, while others are exiled in the shadowy existence. Under it there are not only sides which we are ashamed of or which we do not want to admit, maybe at all to ourselves. Unfortunately, we also exclude shares which could enrich our life and which show to us, the way to a life, which we really want to live.
We have learnt our restrictions by our education, adaptations and favorotism of certain life styles.
However, our life becomes round only and entire if we lift our shadow pages and strengths to the light, can be enriched from them and can live thus our very own regulation.
How do I recognise myself, how am I real, what do I really need, would want and do miss. Nevertheless, not a low part of my "me", is hidden, by education and adaptation, behind thick walls, since the childhood.
Love comes and originates, if we expect it least of all, if we do not search for it. The hunt for love, does not bring the right partner. And the search for love, prepares only longing and unhappy being. We need a mental freedom to be able to love intensely.

Love is in us.
The Being of love tells to analyse, to find out, that today it is experienced seldom; means to criticise the social conditions, which are very often responsible for it.
The faith in the possibility of the love as a general and not only exceptionally individual phenomenon, is a rational faith, which is based on examination into the being of the person.“

Erich Fromm

Or freely after Kant:

What can I know?
What may I believe?
What should I do?

Spirituality in the modern free life, indicates to have the choice, to look after own internal signs of the secrets, of the nature and the universe, then to fulfil them.
Since in our time today, everything is relative and submitted to the value change. How can the soul be rooted, in the depth of theirs develop and the spring for hope and calmness be? To protect us, to be a match ball of modern age, opinions, fears or longings lifelong, which are only brought over us, to cover the sensory-like of our life?

Be your light by yourself... (Buddha)