Obsession or Love?

How do I know, wheter it is love or an obsession?
(Erotomania or De-Clérambault-Syndrom) Obsession is a kind of passionable Mania. The criterion for "de Clérambault" was the unshakable faith, to be loved of the target person. That person lives mostly in a higher social environment.
"de Clérambault" divided the development into three stages. Advertised after a stage full of pride in the hope and optimism to the adored one, came the stage of grief, in the sense of disappointed love and then the stage of the grievance by the admirer trying to enforce his claims, sometimes in a dangerous manner. There is always in front of the imagination, to be loved by that other person. That person often feels they have been restricted in there life and has often even compassion. A "NO" from the adored one, will not be accepted. Some of them even interpret this refusal as a challenge, merely to give even more effort, into making their courtship hearder. Through phone calls, letters, gifts, visits, or even by monitoring and one steal he/she wants to win this love. The delusions usually refers more to an idealized romantic love and emotional connectedness, than on sexual attraction.
Only by absolute prohibition of contact and concomitant a therapy (often the cause are processed in a unprocessed grief for a loved one), can help. Because an obsession has definitely two victims.
I think with this description you can realise the difference between an Obsession and Love. While Obsession is usually an ordeal of suffering and pain; Love shows, joy, even if Love sometimes hurts, its still giving you the feeling of happiness, warmth, be at home, tenderness and physical demand.

The point? of life .....

or is that not the question ......... or why is there such a question .....

An objective sense of a thing whose existence is by nature, sometimes it's its contents (act) and sometimes also it's its consequence.
The sense of a rock then is, that it is just a rock and if it falls down from the mountain, because it was hitten by a lightning and below it runs over a walker and he will be killed, then the meaning of the falling boulder, is to kill the walker. It's simple.

Accordingly, my life has the meaning, that I am living (existence), the fact that I'm doing something (content, action) and that sometimes some of it follows.

Now I can, as a subject, judge... whether I think it's good or bad (what is there, what happened there and what will follow from that) and if I can find a subjective meaning for me.

Colloquially, it usually means, that someone had "found the meaning of a thing", if they're well maintained and usually something had "no sense" just because it's disliked.

Who therefore has no meaning in his life or the sense studied in some external conditions (eg an assessment of the life, lived by third parties), who has only didn't find a way, for themselve to find a way to lead a profitable, good, that is "(subjective) meaningful" life. He either has no courage to live, so that he doesn't look at this live, because he don't not like it, things its "nothing" and find refuge with the relocation of the assessment of life on others (eg society, common morality, deity) for he things hislife or his perceives of his life is bad or crappy. This is only a matter of his emotions.

Life is not shit.
Life is.

So sow and so harvest...?

Often we ask to ourselves the question, why others seemed to have leased anyhow the luck and the bad luck properly sticks to us. Everything and everybody seems to be against us. The letter of the tax office, the annoyance with the family, the job lost, the colleagues are bullying... Disappointments in the love, money that melted away like water between our fingers. The illnesses, which seemed like the punishment of God. Why, what I have done, with what do I earn this? Why life handles so unfairly with us? It drives you to despair.

We hear, what we sow, that we harvest. We think, have we not sowed love and luck? Or does the fear, the hatred, the fury, the rage, the disregard comes back to us; all this what we have also lived and have felt? Is there really the law of the resonance? And thus we start thinking over our life checking.

To quarrel not with your destiny...

Reconciled with it; accept what was, let go what blocks you, what often takes up our thoughts so much, that there is no more space for constructive remains. And also if it sounds absurd, tries to win knowledge, even from the worst situations. How? Attemps to look once at the matter/situation from "outside". What would you see, if it does not concerned yourself, but a friend? To what would you point him out, what does he not see? Could it not be the sign of the "destiny", that the way you are going, is not the right thing for you. And the fact that it, the more you effort yourself, it becomes worse, because the occupation, the person, the surroundings is/are not "your way". Thus to seen, the "destiny" helps even, well, if one accepts it in such a way, so recognises. To stick convulsively to something and not to see that you can force nothing, ends for many in mental and health problems.

All "learnt", to "instilled" causes of these blockades, obtains only that later from it, fears, riots, disharmonies and blockades, are the result. The naturalness of a child, of body soul and mind, is filled up slowly, but actually. If you have arisen then, and stands now alone in the life, you will find no rest and satisfaction, because you do not rest in yourself and you are not contented.

Therefore everybody should wake up and empathize into hisself, wake the child in himself; everything and everybody that brings disharmony in his life, let go!

Then, nevertheless, questions once again, if really you not harvest, what you had sowed...

See things in relative terms....

Not everything has the same importance.

We often are under pressure for things which are basically not very important. It's good not to lose it out of sight. The real priorities, that's what's all about. Simply look less at the people, that have things "better" than you. One of the reasons, that we are not contented in the western countries is the fact, that we compare ourselves and our income always with others. People often doing things, because the neighbours or the "friends" also have it. Think less of the status and other outward appearances.
To attempt, in the good sense of the word, to take yourself less important "outside". Lay the main focus once "really" on itself, discover and develop the real "I". We have lost this often out of sight. It saves a lot of stress, if you don't compare yourself and standing in the centre of the universe, that you have to make always everything perfect, allways wants to be right and always everything has to happen, like we want it to be.
Even if you feel responsible for everything, then you take yourself too serious, too importantly. If you try to look quite often the situation from "outside", you'll notice that many things are in perspective....
From time to time, also Humor helps....
In this sense :D