Love and Compassion....

~ Acceptance: accepting others the way they are. No judgment...people are the way they are for a variety of reasons, and we are all learning our lessons through both negative and positive experiences.

~ Allowance: releasing control and allowing people to be who they are learning their lessons in the way "they choose" even if we don't feel it is for their highest good.

~ Trust: Knowing that everyone is divinely guided and has a soul contract they are working on to advance their soul.

~Kindness: Treating others the way you would want to be treated regardless if you agree with them or not.

~ Respect: Allowing others to believe what they want to believe, understanding that everyone is working from different consciousness levels, and some people may not be ready for an expanded concept of who they are......then they would have to accept responsibility and they may not be ready for that.

Entering into Partnership

In partnership and relationship we harness the power of union.

The purpose of partnership is to create something greater than we can create alone. Not because of any deficiency or incompleteness in us, but because each of us is unique, with our own talents and abilities, and in partnership we increase the efforts and talents available for creating something meaningful together. All partnerships, whether romantic, creative, or professionally-based, can be powerful relationships for personal growth. In partnership we harness the power of union.

It is important to choose our partnerships consciously...so we can create partnerships that support and enhance the best of who we are.

Everyone in our lives is a mirror reflecting back the parts we love and dislike about ourselves. If we have the courage to recognize our reflections in each other, we can grow through our partnerships. A partnership that offers both acceptance of who we are and an opportunity for personal transformation can be fertile ground for growing a healthy, lasting union. When we find this kind of partnership, we are more likely to want to keep it, invest in it, and nurture it.
Life is a collaborative effort. Much of what we do can be enhanced through partnership. Together we are stronger because our personal power is multiplied by two. Through partnership we experience the joys of working, living, and loving together.

Fears, insecurities and compensations ...

If you're unconscious, you may be tempted to believe, that you re locked by your fellow man in a so-called golden cage. An image that is liked to be used is the jealous partner, who tries to control you, break out of fear, he/she could leave the relationship. You might think that you can blame your partner for that you feel confined. You can also turn this idea into a partner, who s the "guilt" to your dilemma.
Who believes that?
The ego, which is from a spiritual perspective, the center of your personality. If you are aware, however, observe what thoughts you nurse, then you will realize that they're the ones that trigger these emotions in you. From the perspective of the higher self, everything is in order, exactly the way it is. And amazingly, I think the more attention you give to the fate of contending ideas, the greater your self-builed golden cage.
Insecurety, perfectionism, lack of recognition, fear of failure, searching for "to be loved for its own sake", many people are driven to drugs or to non-material desires, such as the workaholic. What many do not realize is, that too is an addiction. Often with very serious consequences, either physically, psychologically and socially.

To be continued......

Happiness?

It s not your job to make someone else happy. It s your job to make your SELF happy.

We have a lot of VERY unhappy people in this world trying to make others happy..... at the expense of their very own happiness.

Sacrificing the SELF will never work, because it is impossible to give to someone else what you currently do not have.

Are you happy? If you are not ~ what changes are you willing to make in order to claim your birthright of joy, love, happiness and serenity. It is your divine birthright to radiate these attributes, and it is your responsibility to claim them.....for no one else can do it for you.

Are your needs met? If your needs are not met how can you possibly fulfill the needs of others? There must always be a balance in giving and receiving.

Examine your life and your relationships. Be brutally self honest with your self. What changes need to be made? What needs to be released? What needs to be healed? What needs to be discussed? What needs to be brought back into balance?

You have the power and the responsibility to BE HAPPY. Spend time creating that for your self so you can radiate it from your being.

Obsession or Love?

How do I know, wheter it is love or an obsession?
(Erotomania or De-Clérambault-Syndrom) Obsession is a kind of passionable Mania. The criterion for "de Clérambault" was the unshakable faith, to be loved of the target person. That person lives mostly in a higher social environment.
"de Clérambault" divided the development into three stages. Advertised after a stage full of pride in the hope and optimism to the adored one, came the stage of grief, in the sense of disappointed love and then the stage of the grievance by the admirer trying to enforce his claims, sometimes in a dangerous manner. There is always in front of the imagination, to be loved by that other person. That person often feels they have been restricted in there life and has often even compassion. A "NO" from the adored one, will not be accepted. Some of them even interpret this refusal as a challenge, merely to give even more effort, into making their courtship hearder. Through phone calls, letters, gifts, visits, or even by monitoring and one steal he/she wants to win this love. The delusions usually refers more to an idealized romantic love and emotional connectedness, than on sexual attraction.
Only by absolute prohibition of contact and concomitant a therapy (often the cause are processed in a unprocessed grief for a loved one), can help. Because an obsession has definitely two victims.
I think with this description you can realise the difference between an Obsession and Love. While Obsession is usually an ordeal of suffering and pain; Love shows, joy, even if Love sometimes hurts, its still giving you the feeling of happiness, warmth, be at home, tenderness and physical demand.

Letter to my child

I felt your heart beating under my heart for months. In my gut I felt you stomp, turn around, sleep and grow. I felt the wonder, while your soul began more and more to dwell in you. When you were born, I was overwhelmed with a special love, a love that only the miracle of birth can give you; holding you in my arms. It is a feeling, that will give you shelter and release you, so that you can find your own way. Each child must make his own mistakes or expiriences, but I felt, that I want to tell you a little bit about what I learned in my life. So here it is....
If you are looking for a job, looking for something that fits you, because then it is no work. Do not look for recognition, status or wealth, but search for so long, until you'll find what you really want to do from your deepest soul, for yourself and for the world. Therein lies your challenge and your greatest happiness. Trust in your decisions on the wisdom of your body, because intuition can thrive in an energetic feeling in your stomach, the hairs on your arms, that will high standing or in the resistance in your legs, suddenly it's a little bit harder to move in a direction .
Forget about the advantages and disadvantage list, because you only get further away from what you in fact already know. Your mind is not there to make a choice, but to understand them.
If a partner tells you, that he is too complex or not suitable for a relationship, believe him. If he is the right one, if you have found the true love for you, it brings you no more tears, you'll have no worries and nothing to hide. It is simple and besides your butterflies in your stomach, you feel an inner peace. Accept your passion and do not be ashamed of your desire.
The sensuality of a woman does not make it less worth, but more powerful and valuable. Enjoy it on a clean manner.
Just be aware of your own creativity and see how everything goes its way, to make you stronger and wiser --- even the obstacles in your path.
Do not connect with all the horrors of this world, but direct your love and beauty to your immediate surroundings. If something crosses your path, trade by honor and conscience, and do always your best.
Search in the turmoil of everydays life for a bit of silence, to see the truth. If you can't find what you seek for in yourself, you'll never find it. You don't need someone to find the truly sacred in yourself. And you have no need to interpret the sacred in you. Be critical and think independently, even about things that everyone believes to be true, and takes it for granted.
My dear Child, keep as long as possible in your heart, where you come from, and I am grateful that our souls have found each other again.

With deep and endless Love

Your Mom

Forgiveness